heart versus mind

how close is being too close?


being close to someone you love is never an easy feat. it is a constant struggle of following your heart and following your brain. especially when it is a one-sided love affair (aka. mahal ko sya pero may mahal syang iba). not that i'm bitter to those guys who treats their girl bestfriend as special but as a girl who loves that guy, unknowingly he puts her to a deep confusion. 


we can't blame the girl for falling for her bestfriend or we can't blame her for letting him be close despite her feelings but we can't blame the guy too for falling in love with someone else.
as we all know, falling in love is not a choice, staying in love is. we can't choose who we will love but we can at least find a way to divert attention to lessen it.


so back to the dilemma: the girl fell in love with her bestfriend and she knew that he likes/loves someone else. 


we can't blame a guy for being naturally sweet and caring because in his mind that's how a bestfriend should act out but we should not blame the girl too for admiring her bestfriend and making him as a standard for what a guy should be.


so she is in a struggle. heart versus mind. example:


SCENE: a guy spends time with his bestfriend.
HEART: he is doing it because he wants to know me better, he likes me.
MIND: he does this with all of his friends or if not, you are the only one available that time... or that's what bestfriends do, spend time with each other. 


SCENE: a guy puts on extra-effort in meeting his bestfriend.
HEART: he is doing it because finally he loves me.
MIND: he is doing it because he is a friend and that's how friends should be... very caring.


BOTTOMLINE:
a girl can never tell whether a guy likes her or not based on his actions alone. she can always assume but she can never be too sure. if a guy likes a girl, sooner or later he will admit it and that's the only way to confirm if the guy really likes her. 
without it, its plain friendship and that is what a bestfriend shall enjoy or endure, depending on her outlook.


to be positive about it. not all can be so close to the ones they love. eventually feelings will fade and friendship shall remain.


but if GOD wills it that the love will be reciprocated, then what a good foundation it is for a long-lasting marriage.